20170201 TRAGEDY OF REJECTION
Readings at Mass
Liturgical
Colour: Green.
First reading
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Hebrews
12:4-7,11-15 ©
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In the fight against
sin, you have not yet had to keep fighting to the point of death.
Have you
forgotten that encouraging text in which you are addressed as sons? My son,
when the Lord corrects you, do not treat it lightly; but do not get discouraged
when he reprimands you. For the Lord trains the ones that he loves and he
punishes all those that he acknowledges as his sons. Suffering is part of
your training; God is treating you as his sons. Has there ever been any son
whose father did not train him? Of course, any punishment is most painful at
the time, and far from pleasant; but later, in those on whom it has been used,
it bears fruit in peace and goodness. So hold up your limp arms and steady
your trembling knees and smooth out the path you tread; then the
injured limb will not be wrenched, it will grow strong again.
Always be
wanting peace with all people, and the holiness without which no one can ever
see the Lord. Be careful that no one is deprived of the grace of God and that
no root of bitterness should begin to grow and make trouble; this can
poison a whole community.
Responsorial
Psalm
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Psalm
102(103):1-2,13-14,17-18 ©
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The love of the
Lord is everlasting upon those who hold him in fear.
My soul, give thanks
to the Lord
all my
being, bless his holy name.
My soul, give thanks
to the Lord
and never
forget all his blessings.
The love of the
Lord is everlasting upon those who hold him in fear.
As a father has
compassion on his sons,
the Lord has
pity on those who fear him;
for he knows of what
we are made,
he
remembers that we are dust.
The love of the
Lord is everlasting upon those who hold him in fear.
But the love of the
Lord is everlasting
upon
those who hold him in fear;
his justice reaches
out to children’s children
when they
keep his covenant in truth.
The love of the
Lord is everlasting upon those who hold him in fear.
Gospel
Acclamation
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Mt4:4
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Alleluia, alleluia!
Man does not live on
bread alone,
but on every word that
comes from the mouth of God.
Alleluia!
Or
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Jn10:27
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Alleluia, alleluia!
The sheep that belong
to me listen to my voice,
says the Lord,
I know them and they
follow me.
Alleluia!
Gospel
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Mark 6:1-6 ©
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Jesus went to his
home town and his disciples accompanied him. With the coming of the sabbath he
began teaching in the synagogue and most of them were astonished when they
heard him. They said, ‘Where did the man get all this? What is this wisdom that
has been granted him, and these miracles that are worked through him? This is
the carpenter, surely, the son of Mary, the brother of James and Joset and Jude
and Simon? His sisters, too, are they not here with us?’ And they would not
accept him. And Jesus said to them, ‘A prophet is only despised in his own
country, among his own relations and in his own house’; and he could work no
miracle there, though he cured a few sick people by laying his hands on them.
He was amazed at their lack of faith.
TRAGEDY
OF REJECTION
SCRIPTURE
READINGS: [ HEB 12:4-15; PS 102:1-2,13-14,17-18; MARK 6:1-6 ]
In the gospel, we read the
shock Jesus received upon returning to His hometown. “Most of them were
astonished when they heard him.” From being astonished, it led to
disbelief and rejection. They said, “What is this wisdom that has been granted
him, and these miracles that are worked through him? This is the carpenter,
surely, the son of Mary, the brother of James and Joset and Jude and Simon? His
sisters, too, are they not here with us?” In a terse and heartbreaking
remark, the evangelist wrote, “And they would not accept him.”
Indeed, this is often the
reality of life. We should not be surprised as Jesus said, “A prophet is
only despised in his own country, among his own relations and in his own
house.” Those supposedly closest to us, whether they are family members or
colleagues, are often our greatest enemies and wet blankets. They cannot
see the good in us but only our faults. Instead of supporting us, they
are always putting us down for whatever initiatives we take. They oppose
us in whatever good we try to do. We receive nothing but discouragement and
sometimes even slander. This explains why many children lose confidence
in their studies because no matter how hard they try, their parents would
criticize them and ridule their efforts, destroying their confidence and
self-esteem. So too in the office as well! Instead of affirming our
fellow colleagues, we pass disparaging remarks, make them feel small or
inadequate. Isn’t this the way the relatives of Jesus said as
well? “Where did the man get all this?”
The tragedy is that often
those rejected by us are happily welcomed by others. That is why we
prefer to be with those who love us and support us. When husbands and
wives keep putting each other down, they do not realize that they are killing
the love between them and indirectly forcing the other partner to seek
consolation and support elsewhere. Children too, when they do not find
acceptance at home, would prefer to hang out with their friends instead of
being at home in a hostile environment. Indeed, if you find someone
who does not like to be at home, most likely there is no real home but simply a
house. A home is where you expect support, encouragement, understanding,
compassion, consolation and love.
Likewise
in our parishes, how often have we had good laity who are professionals and
doing well in life offering to devote their time to serving God, only to find
discouragement and rejection? In so doing, the Church ends up losing valuable
resources to other organisations and institutions, including NGOs and
non-Catholic or non-Christian entities, that appreciate them more.
We have lost the services of many talented Catholics in our churches
because we fail to appreciate them and value their services. The irony is
that many of them are now doing very well in the world, serving the poor.
What is the reason?
Clearly, most of the time when we find ourselves unable to welcome the prophets
in our lives, it has to do with insecurity and self-interest. The
relatives of Jesus were jealous of Him. They could not accept that
someone who was living with them and once under their authority could now speak
in such an authoritative manner. The scribes and Pharisees also opposed
Jesus later in His ministry because they found Jesus a threat to their status
quo, their position in society and most of all, they did not like what Jesus
said because they felt embarrassed by the truth of His words. They were
all out to remove Jesus as He was a nuisance and an obstacle to their comfort
and interests.
We too behave exactly the
same way. This explains why most people have difficulty with those in
authority. They are too proud to obey. They want things to be done
their way, and according to their whims and fancies. They do not want to
be told what to do. When their vested interests are compromised, they
will fight back to retain their status quo. This is what Pope Francis
often warns us; that worldliness has crept into the Church as well. Even
within the Church, there is an unconscious ambition for fame, power, attention,
security and comfort. The zeal for the spread of the gospel is often lacking so
much so that it is in danger of becoming just another institution that affords
security with all the material and emotional benefits.
So if we do not want to
lose the assistance and services of our fellow Catholics, we must welcome
them. We must not see others who have talent or fresh ideas as working
against us. More often than not, we react out of our insecurity.
The bottom line is that we do not like our cheese moved. We want things
to remain the same. We are routine people and we do not like
changes. But without the sacrifices and pain of change, no organization
or church can grow. When we are set in our own ways, just like the
relatives of Jesus, we will remain stagnant, unable to receive the blessings of
God. This was what the evangelist said, “He could work no miracle there,
though he cured a few sick people by laying his hands on them. He was amazed at
their lack of faith.” By rejecting such talented people and their
sincere good will, we are the ones to suffer in the end. Then we should
not be complaining and lamenting why we do not have enough volunteers in the
Church. The answer is simple. They are not welcome and their
professional advice and skills are not appreciated.
Conversely, when we welcome
the initiatives of people, we empower them and help them to become better each
day. What people need is our confidence and trust. When we are
receptive, open and docile to their plans and visions, they will be more
willing to share and to listen to us and to work collaboratively to bring their
ideas to greater heights. When they see us sincerely wanting to better
their proposals and not sabotaging them, they will be more forthcoming and
eager to contribute to our interests. By placing our confidence in them,
we help them to become more confident in themselves and more courageous in
thinking out of the box and taking risks.
For those of us who are
rejected, we should not fall into despair. As the author in the first
reading reminds us, we are sons of God. “My son, do not scorn correction
from the Lord, do not resent his training, for the Lord trains those he loves,
and chastises every son he accepts. Perseverance is part of your
training; God is treating you as his sons.” We are the children of God
but we need to be purified and grow in grace, in humility and faith. “Our
human fathers were training us for a short life and according to their own
lights; but he does it all for our own good, so that we may share his own
holiness.” Jesus learned obedience through suffering. It was
through the rejection of His own relatives that He could be prepared to accept
a wider rejection from the community. His rejection by His own relatives
and townsfolk prepared Him for the final betrayal and rejection of the apostles
and those who whom He has helped.
Most of all, the author
warns us not to fall into resentment and bitterness. “Seek peace with all
people, and the holiness without which no one can ever see the Lord. Be careful
that no one is deprived of the grace of God and that no root of bitterness
should begin to grow and make trouble; this can poison a large
number.” We must learn to forgive like Jesus and use such rejection
to grow in compassion for our enemies and trust in the Lord. Indeed, if
we accept the trials of life positively, they can make us better, not
bitter. We must be brave and courageous and see everything not through
our wounded eyes and bruised ego but through the mercy and compassion of God.
So let us heed the
exhortation of the author of Hebrews, “any discipline is at the time a matter
for grief, not joy; but later, in those who have undergone it, it bears fruit
in peace and uprightness. So steady all weary hands and trembling knees and
make your crooked paths straight; then the injured limb will not be maimed, it
will get better instead.” With a stronger prayer life, a deeper
relationship with the Lord, with greater openness and perseverance in
establishing dialogue with those who see us as our enemies, and by building
bridges instead of walls, we will one day not just transcend our opponents but
we will make them our friends. We will use their taunts for our growth so
that we can become better and more purified in love and service.
Written by The Most Rev William Goh Roman Catholic Archbishop of
Singapore © All Rights Reserved